Learning from a tragedy
Published: Friday, August 10, 2012 at 12:51 p.m.
Last Modified: Friday, August 10, 2012 at 12:51 p.m.
When a beloved second-grade teacher, Kim Baucom Conover, was shot and killed by her estranged husband before he killed himself on April 15, it left many friends and neighbors shocked, saddened, and wondering if anything could have been done to prevent the tragedy.
Let's Face It
The event will take place on Sunday, Aug. 12 from 2 to 5 p.m. at the Lucchesi Center, 320 North McDowell Boulevard.
Anyone attending is asked to reserve a space by Aug. 10, 2012 and bring a beverage or an appetizer to share. There is no fee, but any donations will support a fund for Kim Baucom's two young twins and her two teenage daughters.
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Recognizing domestic violence
For those who cannot attend, organizers provided the following resources for anyone needing help:
Sonoma County YWCA: 707-546-1234
Sonoma County Family Justice Center: 707-565-8255
National Domestic Violence Network: 1-800-799-SAFE
Anyone in immediate danger should call 911.
The murder-suicide also prompted a desire to confront domestic violence, whiach is an ongoing but usually unnoticed problem in Petaluma. Baucom Conover's was the second death related to domestic violence in two years, following that of Buapha Mullennix in early 2010.
“When this first happened with Kim, a lot of people said, (the Fabulous Women) should do an event for her,” recalled Krista Gawronski, founder and leader of the Fabulous Women, a group of community-minded women who energetically support various causes around town.
“But we really wanted to give the family time and space to grieve, do something with their blessing and properly acknowledge their daughter,” she said.
So it is that four months later, on Sunday, Aug. 12, the Fabulous Women will host “Let's Face It,” an event intended to confront domestic violence head-on in a three-hour program. It will feature speakers like District Attorney Jill Ravitch, a representative of the Sonoma County YWCA, and a survivor of domestic violence.
Gawronski said she hopes the day will be both educational for women around the community and a tribute to Kim Baucom (her friends and family refer to her now by her maiden name), who was a member of the Fabulous Women.
“We're hoping this will be a life-changing day, where we can reinforce to women that they're not alone, that there's resources out there that can change your life,” Gawronski said, adding that her group hopes to dispel the stereotype that only a certain sort of woman falls victim to domestic violence, pointing out that strong, independent women also find themselves in such situations.
“Domestic violence is an ugly thing nobody wants to talk about,” Gawronski said, adding that many people don't think they need to learn about it because they don't believe it applies to their lives. “The reality is, maybe you have a friend or colleague in trouble,” she said. “We want people to be armed with all this information and know that there are all these fabulous community resources out there.”
Those resources include the Sonoma County YWCA, the Family Justice Center and the Petaluma Police Department, all of which will have representatives at the event. Baucom's sister will be there as well, helping to bring the event full circle, Gawronski said.
Current and prospective City Council members have also said they'll attend, along with County Supervisor David Rabbitt, who will say a few words before introducing Ravitch.
“I think it will be a great event,” Rabbitt said. “This is something we need to keep in the public forefront, women need to know that help is there.” Rabbitt was shopping at the Petaluma Market with his wife that Sunday morning that Baucom was shot, and the memory of the day has stayed with him. “Who would have thought, on a Sunday morning in our peaceful town, that this would happen, and who would have thought it would be domestic violence?” he asked.
Ravitch said she plans to talk about how to keep such a tragedy from happening again, focusing on resources like the Family Justice Center, a year-old organization dedicated to empowering the victims of domestic violence around the county.
“The important thing is to be sure that anybody who needs services has them available,” Ravitch said, adding, “Any time there is a domestic violence homicide, we've failed in efforts.”
Gawronski is hoping a couple hundred people from Petaluma and beyond will show up for Let's Face It, especially mothers and daughters but also men. “There are many gentlemen who have RSVPed, and I think it would be fantastic for people to bring their sons,” Gawronski said, “But there is a special emphasis for educating women.”
That includes any girl older than 13. Because of the serious nature of the discussion, girls younger than that are discouraged from coming.
“We're trying to wrap our arms around the younger girls in the community, show them the warning signs,” Gawronski said, noting that many of the Fabulous Women have daughters around age 13 and realize that girls start to date at that age.
“Realistically, 13-year-olds don't think this will happen to them,” Gawronski acknowledged. “We want to do this so that if something happens, it seems familiar, and they'll know something isn't right, or maybe they'll see it in a girlfriend's life.”
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